Freedom-Universe : Behavioral Standards

THE 13 BASIC ETHICAL FAMILY VALUES

1. CONVIVIALITY
2. SOCIAL TOLERANCE
3. RATIONALITY
4. SEARCH FOR TRUTH THROUGH THE ELIMINATION OF CONTRADICTIONS
5. COMMUNICATION
6. EQUALITY
7. PARTICIPATORY DEMOCRACY
8. ACCOUNTABILITY & TRANSPARENCY
9. NO DUPLICITY
10. NON-ALIENATION
11. ACTIVE INTENTIONAL FRIENDSHIP DEVELOPMENT
12. NON-INTERFERENCE IN ART OR PROJECT ORIGINATION
13. GRACEFUL DISTANCING

1. CONVIVIALITY:

This is maintaining a basic cheerful disposition and an engaging, sociable attitude as much as possible. No manipulative anger, threats, harassment, rudeness, snottiness, or violent behavior of any kind. Ability to converse in a genial way. "I'm not a morning person" is not an excuse for choosing grumpiness. In a situation where an individual's sovereign rights have been violated (such as physical abuse, theft, rape, murder, holocaust victims, etc.) then anger is equated with righteous indignation and expression of righteous indignation is seen as healthy as long as it doesn't interfere with a person's ability to share and cooperate with like minded others. Anger expressed toward a person with whom one has a difference of opinion would be considered manipulative anger and not righteous indignation, since expressing oneís opinion is in no way a violation of anyone elseís individual rights (i.e. 1st amendment to U.S. Constitution, re: Freedom of Speech). Working on one's self in order to eliminate choosing to express manipulative anger is part of embracing Conviviality as a positive value.

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2. SOCIAL TOLERANCE: The idea that people of good will can have fundamental differences of opinion, style, taste, etc., which can be put forth and discussed, whether or not agreement is reached. Respect for all choices of religion, lifestyle and culture. Absence of prejudice. Agreement to disagree graciously is considered the norm.

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3. RATIONALITY: This includes the use of reason and logic as basic approaches in all communications, to evaluate the usefulness and accuracy of emotions, intuitions, hunches, or inspiration. There is no conflict between intellect and emotions; your rational faculties should be looking to get you into a mindset and environment where you can feel relaxed and happy. Strong feelings and mystical intuitions may not be, in and of themselves, obvious proof of any truth and may not communicate the underlying ideas very clearly to others. Ideas need to be evaluated or discussed inside the realm of logic and reason, if they are to be considered as possible solutions to problems where the solution would directly affect other people besides the person who has the intuition or strong feeling. All persons directly affected by the intuitive proposal must be willing to implement the proposal. If not, then the proposal is considered blocked or tabled. Logic and Reason is the basis of good communications between people who see themselves as Equals.

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4. SEARCH FOR TRUTH THROUGH THE ELIMINATION OF CONTRADICTIONS: Working definition of truth: a very large body of premises which do not contradict each other. If a contradiction appears to exist in reality, either your premises are mistaken and itís not really a contradiction, or the contradiction needs to be resolved. Contradictions between intellectually stated beliefs and actions, between two individual's different versions of the same event, or anything else are discussed and analyzed in an attempt to discover the most accurate picture of reality. Resolution of internal contradictions (to eliminate the dishonesty) is considered a positive goal.

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5. COMMUNICATION: Conversation and other communication skills are art forms most anyone can learn and develop. Non-communication is considered unsocial and does not contribute to friendship formation. Also see 8. ACCOUNTABILITY & TRANSPARENCY:

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6. EQUALITY: This includes the study and practice of sophisticated Equality (economic non-hierarchy), aka Cooperation & Sharing of natural resources, or, in other words: Love Thy Neighbor as Thyself. Shared leadership (no one person seen as the leader) is seen as the ideal. Equality includes the idea that everyone is a unique & sovereign individual and our individual uniquenesses are due to the many differences there are between us, such as: gender, race (or color of skin), physical strength and speed, skills and talents (genetically endowed or individually developed), sexual orientation (whether genetic or chosen), opinions, preferences of style & taste, etc. Uniquenesses provide variety and variety is seen as positive. In the Egalitarian economic paradigm all individuals are valued the same in terms of access to natural resources. Natural resources are defined to include the resources of the planet such as air, water, plants, animals, minerals, metals, petroleum, etc., as well as human resources such as inventiveness and other physical or intellectual capacities. Intellectual property is considered a natural resource of human inventiveness and therefore shared freely with everyone who embraces Equality as a value. All individuals when compared will have areas of strengths and areas of weaknesses and those strengths and weaknesses could ultimately provide balance and complementarity inside of a group of people who choose to embrace Cooperation and Sharing instead of competition and deception.

Sub categories included under EQUALITY are

    a) NON-SEXISM

    b) NON-AGEISM

    c) NON-RACISM

    d) NON-CLASSISM

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7. PARTICIPATORY DEMOCRACY: One person, one vote. Various definitions for decision making can be used depending on the importance of the particular issue involved: Unanimity (or consensus), consensus minus one, 70% majority, 2/3 majority, simple majority. Quaker-based Consensus to derive unity is the desired process for all major issues (such as who joins the community or major money expenditures), with simple majority votes for minor decisions (such as what movie to watch or should the window be open or closed). Taking the time to discuss an issue thoroughly enough in order to hear everyone's view is considered the norm.

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8. ACCOUNTABILITY & TRANSPARENCY: Open and honest expression of thoughts, emotions, fantasies, hunches, past history, time & money management, opinions.....anything & everything. "I don't want to talk about it" is not acceptable, though discussion can be postponed to another time if deemed appropriate.

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9. NO DUPLICITY: The idea is to say nothing about a person you would not say to that person's face. No gossip or secret statements.

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10. NON-ALIENATION: No "foul-mouthing" government or other institutions, relatives, religions, ex-spouses, etc. Critical input, rational analysis, and evaluation is fine (and desired) as long as it is aired and discussed without bitterness, acrimony, bigotry, hate, etc., and alternative solutions are offered or brainstormed.

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11. ACTIVE INTENTIONAL FRIENDSHIP DEVELOPMENT: Consciously working on developing ongoing friendships, in clearly defined relationship rings based on shared values and mutual consent. (See The Law of Mutual Consent & The Relationship Ring Model)

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12. NON-INTERFERENCE IN ART OR PROJECT ORIGINATION: The originator of any project has the right to maintain the integrity of that project. Persons joining the project agree to abide by the criteria set forth at the start by the project originator. If differences arise, persons differing with the originator's opening criteria may withdraw to start a new project, but may not alter the original agreed upon plan without the originator's consent.

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13. GRACEFUL DISTANCING:

Anyone who does not agree to these basic standards or breaks them in practice may be asked to leave (withdraw from membership). Agreement is to withdraw graciously should such a distancing arise. (Refer to Graceful Distancing & The Law of Mutual Consent for an expanded explanation, including Relationship Rings).

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TOBACCO USE:

Though not one of the 13 Basic Ethical Behavioral Standards, tobacco prohibition is part of the project originator's opening criteria. I am looking for life partners who do not use tobacco.

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